What I’ve Learned From Sharing My Worries

A few days ago I published a post explaining all of my worries after some months away from the blog. I thought that nobody would have read that post and at the moment I wasn’t even realizing that I was actually sharing my feelings, so I was really surprised with the amount of comments I’ve got both from old and new readers. Everyone has been really supportive about the whole situation and I did get some really helpful responses.

Here's what I've learned from sharing my worries instead of keeping them for myself. You should do the same, trust me!

Writing down what was worrying me so much and sharing it with other people really helped me to move on, so I decided to share with you what I’ve learned from it.

It’s not healthy to keep it all in.

Really, it’s not. Personally, the more I did wait to share what was keeping me away from the blog, the more my worries kept getting bigger and bigger. When you have a problem of any kind, it’s always better to say it out loud. Share it with a friend, a family member, your lover, your internet audience (even when you don’t think you have one). It’s liberating and you will feel a lot less pression just by letting it out off of your head.

Sharing a worry or a problem also help you to put it into words, which is a great way to see whatever is upsetting you in a clearer way.

You’re never the only one in that situation.

When you share an upsetting argument on your blog, the chances are that some of your readers have already been in that same situation. Even when you share your problem with just one person, it is probable that he or she will know someone else who also had a similar experience.

This brings two big yays. First at all, you will feel less alone – which is always a calming thought. And second, all of the people that have already been there probably know a way out, which they will most likely share with you.

People are great at giving advice.

As I just said, you will find that a lot of people will be willing to share their own pieces of advice with you. Sometimes that advice comes from people that actually lived the same situation as you. But let’s admit it – even people that never felt the same way will likely try to give you their precious opinion. And I must say, sometimes that kind of help it’s even more useful since it comes from another point of view.

I think we all know how good it feels to help someone else, so let’s all accept other people’s help from time to time.

Sometimes the old way can be the right way.

When I shared my perplexity about where I was going with this blog with my readers, most of them told me to just keep writing. They were right, I spent too much time trying to find a focus, trying to find the right way. The truth is, I just stopped writing and I lost the habit of doing it.

If you feel stuck, like I did, maybe worrying too much about it isn’t the solution. Just keep doing what you were doing before, and maybe you will find your motivation again.

Don’t be afraid to try something new.

This may sound in contrast with what I just said before, but I think that some kind of innovation sometimes can help, too. In my case, letting out all my worries made space in my head to produce new positive thoughts. You can find your new motivation in making little changes in what you already have, or start something completely new. It always feels great to have something to spice up the monotony, isn’t it?

What do you normally do when you have a problem or you worry too much about something? Do you share it with someone or do you keep it to yourself? What have worked for you until now? Comment below!

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5 Reasons Why Changes Are Good

5 reasons why changes are good

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As you know, lately I’ve decided to make some changes with the blog by trying to commit to it more. What you may not know, however, is that I’m planning to make a big change in my life too. After my bachelor degree, which I will get in few months, I decided to end my university studies and find a job. I’m really looking forward to it, but at the same time I must confess that this big step also scares me a little.

We all know how changes can be scary, and because of that sometimes we tend to forget that they can also be really good.

Challenge yourself: you can totally see a change as a great new adventure where you will have to push yourself. This also means that when you will succeed in it – and I’m sure you will – you will feel a sense of accomplishment. Isn’t that a good way to get even more motivated?

Break the circle: yes, routines can make you feel protected, but they can also be really boring. Stepping of your comfort zone may be the only way to find out how many things you’re missing out. Don’t be afraid!

Open a new door: when you decide do make a change you may feel like you’re giving up what you already have. But every time you close a door, there is a new one that opens before you. So walk that door and enjoy everything that you will find behind it. You could be surprised how amazing this new journey can be.

Get some perspective: making a change can also make you realize how much what you were doing before may have been a limitation for you and your creativity. It’s only by going through something new that you can look back with another point of view and put everything you’ve done until then into perspective.

And if it doesn’t work… It could happen: maybe your big change turns out to be not that great how you imagined it. Well, don’t give up just yet! Maybe you just walked the wrong door. Go back and try again!

How can changes be good for you? Leave a comment below!

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3 Ways To Seek Your Positivity

3 ways to seek your positivity

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These last days I’ve been thinking about positivity. I had a good talk with some people, and I realized how it always seems easier to be negative than positive. The discussion we had was about the fact that even in a situation that we should be enjoying and loving, we keep thinking about the negative side of it. And when someone starts pointing out a negative point, everyone else follow the lead and start doing the same. It’s really difficult to break this circle, but I came up with some ideas that I want to share with you.

Use “but” in a better way

Let’s start by saying that it is impossible to be positive all the time. However, I realized that most of the time, we start with a positive sentence and we add something negative at the end. “I like autumn, but I hate this cold” or “I like my job, but I always have to get up early in the morning and I’m always tired”. How many times did we do that? The thing is, even if we were saying something good, what stick into our mind is the last little bit of the sentence, the negative one. So, if we really need to point out something negative, why don’t we try the other way around? Let’s start with the negative point and then focus on the positivity: “I don’t like this cold, but I love autumn!”. This way, we empathize the good side of our sentence and it’s easier to remember it in our mind.

Minimize the negativity and maximise the positivity

This step is really simple. When we’re about to say something good, let’s try to exaggerate it (without being fake, of course). Do you like something? Why not really like it, or even love it? And since it’s not easy to cut off all negativity from our life, let’s try with baby steps. Instead of saying you hate something, try to minimize it and say you just don’t like it that much. Of course, if you’re able to stop yourself and don’t say anything negative at all, that’s even better!

Smile, smile, smile!

I’m sure you already heard this, but simile is the best thing a women can wear. And I’d like to change it a little bit and say that it’s the best thing every human being can wear. Sometimes we forget about what expression we are making with our face – and most of those times, it ends up being a not so happy face. Forcing a smile is the simplest thing to do in moments like those. Think about something happy, and you’ll see an instant change in your aptitude. And don’t forget that a smile is also really contagious – even more than yawning, in some occasions, so you might end up bringing some positivity in the people around you as well!

Do you have any other idea to bring more positivity in your life?

PS: Like this post? Stop by a little longer and read 5 Things I Need To Learn

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