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These last days I’ve been thinking about positivity. I had a good talk with some people, and I realized how it always seems easier to be negative than positive. The discussion we had was about the fact that even in a situation that we should be enjoying and loving, we keep thinking about the negative side of it. And when someone starts pointing out a negative point, everyone else follow the lead and start doing the same. It’s really difficult to break this circle, but I came up with some ideas that I want to share with you.
Use “but” in a better way
Let’s start by saying that it is impossible to be positive all the time. However, I realized that most of the time, we start with a positive sentence and we add something negative at the end. “I like autumn, but I hate this cold” or “I like my job, but I always have to get up early in the morning and I’m always tired”. How many times did we do that? The thing is, even if we were saying something good, what stick into our mind is the last little bit of the sentence, the negative one. So, if we really need to point out something negative, why don’t we try the other way around? Let’s start with the negative point and then focus on the positivity: “I don’t like this cold, but I love autumn!”. This way, we empathize the good side of our sentence and it’s easier to remember it in our mind.
Minimize the negativity and maximise the positivity
This step is really simple. When we’re about to say something good, let’s try to exaggerate it (without being fake, of course). Do you like something? Why not really like it, or even love it? And since it’s not easy to cut off all negativity from our life, let’s try with baby steps. Instead of saying you hate something, try to minimize it and say you just don’t like it that much. Of course, if you’re able to stop yourself and don’t say anything negative at all, that’s even better!
Smile, smile, smile!
I’m sure you already heard this, but simile is the best thing a women can wear. And I’d like to change it a little bit and say that it’s the best thing every human being can wear. Sometimes we forget about what expression we are making with our face – and most of those times, it ends up being a not so happy face. Forcing a smile is the simplest thing to do in moments like those. Think about something happy, and you’ll see an instant change in your aptitude. And don’t forget that a smile is also really contagious – even more than yawning, in some occasions, so you might end up bringing some positivity in the people around you as well!
Do you have any other idea to bring more positivity in your life?
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