I Had A Blog

I HADABLOG

I had a blog. I did, and I loved it. I loved writing in it, taking pictures and edit them for it. Then I’m not sure what happened…

I started working, while I still had to study for my last exam, and it was pretty exhausting. But I kept thinking “one of these days I will take a moment for myself and write a new post on my blog“, at least to tell everyone that I was still alive.

At the end of August I finally did my exam, but just after that I moved in with my boyfriend (yes, big news right here!) and that took a lot of my time and efforts, too.

Now it’s been a few weeks, and I have to admit that, even if I’m pretty tired most of the time when I’m home, I had some free time. And I thought a lot about writing this post… But the more I waited, the more difficult it became.

Right now I’m not even sure that someone will actually read this words. I’m pretty sure that after more than 100 days without a single blog post, most of my few readers probably left. And if you are still here, well… I’m really grateful, so thank you!

It’s a bit hard for me to write these words here, in this place that used to be my beloved blog. It’s hard because I really want to start blogging again. To be honest, I need it. But the thing is, I’m not sure what I want to be blogging about.

Everywhere I see inspiring blog post saying that to be a successful blog you have to have a focus, a main topic. Now, I’m not saying that I want to become a successful blogger – that was never the goal, even if of course it would be nice – but they sure have a point, and this made me think. What’s the focus of my blog? Do I even have one?

Well, it’s upsetting that I don’t know. The thing is that even in my life, I always wanted to do a lot of things, and I change my passions pretty often. There are a few that are always present, like singing  and photography. I actually tried to make this entire blog about photography, but after I while I got bored and I felt the need of writing about something else, too. I called myself a lifestyle blogger, without wanting to realize that it was still a generic definition.

I know I’d like to write about self-improvement, but am I good at it? I’m not sure. I love to read blogging advice, but I feel catastrophic with my blog most of the time, so that’s not probably a good idea.

Since lately I’ve been working with kids, I even thought about changing everything and focus about craft and activities to do with kids. The thing is, once again I don’t know if I would be able to stick with it and if I’d had the time actually create those things.

So, as you can see if you’re still reading, which I doubt (yes, I’m not being self-confident right now), I’m drowning in an ocean of if and buts. I realize I still have a lot of thinking to do about this and if you want to help me with some advice, you are all more than welcome.

I promise (mostly to myself) I’ll do my best to keep you updated about all this mess, and to try to finally find a way out of it.

  • We all great that why – at the moment I am also feeling very demotivated ! But have to stay positive

    Candice | Beauty Candy Loves

    • I feel that it’s just hard when you don’t know what you really want to write about, don’t you think? How do you find blog post ideas?

  • Welcome back, Ellie! I missed you. Just keep writing and you will find you niche. :-)

    • Thank you so much, Ana! It’s nice to be back, even if it’s just to say that I don’t know where I’m heading… I really feel like I should find a focus to get motivated again, but I don’t know where to start… How did you find your niche?
      I’m afraid that if I just keep writing without a focus, I will get lost again…

      • Just don’t pressure yourself. Think about what makes you happy, about what makes your heart sing. Don’t write for us, write for yourself. Write to remember, write to live again every happy day. :-)

  • Karrie Myers

    I am in the exact same boat. I had a blog but like you I began to be busy and put my blog on the back burner. Again, like you, I called mine a lifestyle blog, and didn’t have a focus, and still don’t know what to do with it, even after taking (a lot) of time off to think about it. I’m sure we will both figure it out. But it’s nice to know someone else is in the same boat. Keep going and I’m sure you will figure it out!

    • We’re probably not the only ones… It’s just so frustrating when you really want to go back blogging frequently, but you don’t know how. Hopefully, we will both find our ways! Let me know if you’ll figure out how to get back on the road…!

  • MechanicalRose

    Ti capisco benissimo. Anche io ultimamente ho provato le stesse cose, anche se per altri motivi. Ho mollato il progetto fotografico annuale, anche se quest’ultimo era a temi e quindi in teoria “più facile”, perché proprio non ho sentito la voglia di farlo. E anche il blog è un po’ rimasto indietro. Ma sai cosa? Va bene anche così. Credo che scrivere sforzandosi, perché “devo per forza fare almeno un post a settimana” non sia giusto. Meglio lasciare che quel post, magari solo uno ogni tanto, sia scritto con voglia e che ciò traspaia. Per la questione del blog “a tema”, con me sfondi una porta aperta :D Mi son fatta domande per un sacco di tempo a riguardo, soprattutto sull’aprire o meno un blog solo per le foto, e anche io mi sono fatta la stessa domanda… Ma il mio blog principale, di cosa parla? E’ un blog di cosa? Di cucina? Di beauty? Di fotografia? Di serie tv e film? Alla fine è tutto questo messo insieme, perché a me interessano tutte queste cose, e penso che alla fine questa sia la definizione di “blog personale” :) Un abbraccio!
    S.
    http://mechanicalroses.blogspot.it

    • Mi fa piacere vedere che non sono sola in questo caos mentale… Sono pienamente d’accordo sul fatto che piuttosto che scrivere sforzandosi è meglio fare un po’ di pausa. Ma io di pausa ne ho fatta fin troppa… e non perché non avessi più voglia di scrivere, ma perché non sapevo di cosa scrivere. Il chè è alquanto frustrante.
      Inizialmente parlavo della mia vita, perché tanto quasi nessuno mi leggeva e questo spazio era più che altro una valvola di sfogo. Poi ho scoperto man mano il grande mondo dei blog e mi sono accorta che il “diario personale” non era l’unica possibilità. Ci sono una miriade di blog che amo leggere e che invidio perché appunto hanno alcuni temi centrali che mi appassionano – e i risultati della loro bravura si vedono anche nel numero di lettori. Come ho scritto anche nel post, il mio scopo non è quello di arrivare al successo avendo migliaia di follower: meglio pochi ma buoni, su questo sono sempre stata sicura. Ma vorrei riuscire a concentrare un po’ il tutto, vorrei riuscire a dare ai miei lettori una sicurezza.. in modo che approdando qui riescano a capire che tipo di post troveranno. E questo aiuterebbe di più anche me nel trovare argomenti su cui scrivere, credo.
      Il tuo blog è speciale perché ti rappresenta e rappresenta le tue passioni. E sei brava perché riesci a concentrare le tue passioni in modo molto armonioso, riuscendo a scrivere bene tema. Al contrario, io sento che nonostante ho molte passioni svariate proprio come te, non riesco a trasmetterle così bene… Vorrei davvero riuscire a trovare un argomento (o anche più argomenti connessi tra loro da un filo comune) che mi invogli a scrivere, che sia anche un argomento del quale riesco a parlare spontaneamente e bene. Continuerò a pensare… Spero solo di non metterci troppo a trovare una soluzione..!
      Un abbraccio!

      • MechanicalRose

        Cara innanzitutto grazie dei complimenti, davvero! Non so mica se me li merito :D Anche perché guarda, anche leggendo la tua risposta, rivedo davvero tanto quelle che sono le mie insicurezze riguardo il blog. Anche io vedo blog stra seguiti, stra famosi e nominati (non che io creda di poter diventare la Ferragni delle ricette sui muffin, però ‘nsomma!) e quello che ho notato appunto è che hanno un tema centrale. Che ne so, fashion, beauty, cucina, tecnologia… Ma il punto è che io non mi sento così tanto preparata in nessuna delle cose che mi interessano e che tratto un po’ alla leggera sul mio blog, e quindi aprirci un altro sito a parte mi parrebbe “pretenzioso”. E alla fine? Alla fine boh cara, io credo continuerò a scrivere di quello che mi va, quando mi va. Ché in fondo mi pare la ricetta migliore ;)

  • Bentornata Ellie cara!!! Il mio pensiero è sempre stato questo: il blog deve essere un piacere, non una fonte di ansia, quindi prendilo come una cosa tua, senza obblighi nei confronti di noi che ti leggiamo, il filo conduttore dei temi di cui parli c’è, e sei tu stessa!

    • Sei carinissima, grazie mille!!

  • Amanda

    Blogger burnout happens! But just writing this post is a steps towards getting back into the swing of things and becoming passionate again. Those readers who love you will stay, no matter how long you’re gone.

    Amanda | thedeerandthewolf.com

    • You’re so right, Amanda! Finally taking the courage to write this post helped me a lot, it was such a relief! I had a lot of thinking about all of this, but this time with more positivity on my side. And the response of everyone here really made my day!

  • To everything there is a season. Don’t pressure yourself. When it is right, you will know it. Just give yourself permission time to figure it out.

    • Thank you for your nice words! Expressing my worries and reading your kind reactions already helped me a lot! I think I’ve already started to move on from this demotivation phase I was in…!

  • I used to have a blog too, and just recently started blogging again so I really understand what you are going thru. Just keep going, hav a deep conversation with yourself and choose something that really makes your heart sing it doesn’t matter how weird, specific or broad is, and with passion you are going to rock it!!

    • Hi Ana, thank you so much for your advice! It’s nice to see that I’m not alone! It’s weird to be back blogging again, but it sure does feel good!

  • I think these sort of doubts and fears come to all bloggers all the time. I don’t have a lot of advice to give you except: Write. Write whatever comes to your mind, whatever inspires you, whatever you want. Don’t worry too much about your niche or your focus right now, just write to get back into the habit of it. Writing is a daily exercise. Just do it, and sooner or later you’ll discover the topic that you are truly passionate about. Good luck and welcome back to blogging! I’m looking forward to your new posts :)

    • Thank you, Fabiola! You’re right, I really need to get back into the habit of writing and thanks to all your beautiful comments I’m really excited about it!

  • Ugh. I feel you. I’m always a hot mess with full time job, full time college, and 3 kids! Life is crazy! Good luck!

  • It’s important for you to focus on what you want, my lovely. And these is certainly nothing stopping you from blogging about all those topics and more. I think too much is put on finding a niche and a theme, I personally find it a lot easier to go with the flow and blog about what I want to blog about. If people enjoy that, that’s pretty damn ace, and I’d like people to like it, but also, similarly I don’t want to lose sleep over it.

    I’ll still be reading :)

    Erin | comadiary

    • Hi Erin, thank you so much for your advice! I’m going to try and keep going writing about what comes to my mind. And who know, maybe I’ll find my focus just by doing it…

  • Just write. Write for yourself not for others.

    Tiffany

    ~ Simplybeinggreat.net

    • Thank you for the advice, Tiffany!

  • Finalmente trovo il tempo per commentare! Ciao Ellie, che piacere leggerti di nuovo!
    Io ormai latito tantissimo sul mio blog: ma ho capito che l’importante sia non sentirsi costretti a scrivere per forza. Comprendo comunque il fastidio tra il voler fare qualcosa e il non riuscire a dargli forma.
    Un abbraccio :)

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